don't know what to do .....

[pearl69]

well.........
I 've got a big problem and I don't want to speak about it in french
(i don't want people to recognize me, mostly one person... )

My cousin just lost his wife in an accident, it was a month ago they had two children :5 years old and 3 months old

my parents are gone to Morocco so I am alone, and this cousin called me, I thought it was for asking if they arrived well, but he finished by saying "pray for us"
(I was afraid about the meaning of this sentence but I said to myself he must be talking about him and his children)

he called me 5 days later I was also thinking it was for having some news but we were just speaking about all and nothing : family, our job ....before hanging up he asked me for my cell phone number I was but I gave it to him

he sent me a message on the journey, called me on my cell phone and at home but I didn't hang on ......


what do you think it means ?

I am so choked, I was crying yesterday and today too 'cause I am so afraid that it means what I think it means

is there any one to speak with me ? I feel so bad...........

[Ain_Sbah]

Ok but only in french j'ai du mal avec louzbek j'avoue que c surprenant ton histoire

[milady]

Envoyé par pearl69 well......... I 've got a big problem and I don't want to speak about it in french (i don't want people to recognize me, mostly one... ) My cousin just lost his wife in an accident, it was a month ago they had two children :5 years and 3 months my parents are gone to Morocco so I am alone, and this cousin called me, I thought it was for asking if they arrived well, but he finished by saying "pray for us" (I was afraid about the meaning of this sentence but I said to myself he must be talking about him and his children) he called me 5 days later I was also thinking it was for having some news but we were just speaking about all and nothing : family, our job ....before hanging up he asked me for my cell phone number I was but I gave it to him he sent me a message on the journey, called me on my cell phone and at home but I didn't hang on ...... what do you think it means ? I am so choked, I was crying yesterday and today too 'cause I am so afraid that it means what I think it means is there any one to speak with me ? I feel so bad...........

Maybe he's just feeling alone, and needs someone....just to talk. It's probably hard for him to take care of everything now that his wife's passed away. Talking to someone may help.
But if you think he's planning to ask you to marry him, to be a mom for his 3 months baby...etc, there's no need to panic either, you just say, sorry I can't.

[vanichoco]

Envoyé par pearl69 well......... I 've got a big problem and I don't want to speak about it in french (i don't want people to recognize me, mostly one... ) My cousin just lost his wife in an accident, it was a month ago they had two children :5 years and 3 months my parents are gone to Morocco so I am alone, and this cousin called me, I thought it was for asking if they arrived well, but he finished by saying "pray for us" (I was afraid about the meaning of this sentence but I said to myself he must be talking about him and his children) he called me 5 days later I was also thinking it was for having some news but we were just speaking about all and nothing : family, our job ....before hanging up he asked me for my cell phone number I was but I gave it to him he sent me a message on the journey, called me on my cell phone and at home but I didn't hang on ...... what do you think it means ? I am so choked, I was crying yesterday and today too 'cause I am so afraid that it means what I think it means is there any one to speak with me ? I feel so bad...........

You are afraid by what ? for your family, you think that he wants to marry with you ... your story is strange and I m not sure to inderstand what is the real problem ....

[pearl69]

Envoyé par Ain_Sbah Ok but only in french j'ai du mal avec louzbek j'avoue que c surprenant ton histoire

ok thank you ,but not there

en effet!!

[pearl69]

Envoyé par milady Maybe he's just feeling alone, and needs someone....just to talk. It's probably hard for him to take care of everything now that his wife's passed away. Talking to someone may help. But if you think he's planning to ask you to marry him, to be a mom for his 3 months baby...etc, there's no need to panic either, you just say, sorry I can't.

that's what i first thought but he is calling me too much, sending me messages to say take care and good night....things he was never doing before, he was more talking with my brothers and my parents even with me but when all the family was there
I don't know if you know what I mean.....

it's just that he suffered too much 'cause I know he loved his wife very much
and I don't want to hurt him again
and I don't understand why he is doing that only a month after
I am lost ....

[pearl69]

Envoyé par vanichoco You are afraid by what ? for your family, you think that he wants to marry with you ... your story is strange and I m not sure to inderstand what is the real problem ....

I am afraid he wants to marry me
I don't understand it can happen only a month after his wife died
afraid that all the family knows
afraid to have to hurt him a time so short after what he lived ....

[milady]

Envoyé par pearl69 that's what i first thought but he is calling me too much, sending me messages to say take care and good night....things he was never doing before, he was more talking with my brothers and my parents even with me but when all the family was there I don't know if you know what I mean..... it's just that he suffered too much 'cause I know he loved his wife very much and I don't want to hurt him again and I don't understand why he is doing that only a month after I am lost ....

He has a baby, 3 months, every father would that early of having someone with him to take care of the baby. He can't do it alone. Single moms can handle much easier than single dads.

[pearl69]

Envoyé par milady He has a baby, 3 months, every father would that early of having someone with him to take care of the baby. He can't do it alone. Single moms can handle much easier than single dads.

he 's got a baby ,3 months old, and a child ,5 years old,

but even the 40 days are'nt passed !!
and I have seen him crying.... being so bad when it happens.... I never thought he could overcome this !!!

the children are with his sisters for the moment

I don't know what to do if he calls me again .........
but if it's help that he need I don't want to drop him

[altruiste]

he may need some warmth .It is difficult for him to undergo what he endured so even if he is planning to marry you it does not make him a serial killer either but of you do not want just hang on for god's sake and be cold he will undoubtedley understans little by little ans things are clear he cannot marry you forcibly so do what you like to do it is up to you